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Friday, April 22, 2011 at 8:00AM I have handled many collaborative divorce cases. However, I have never gone through the process as a client. So, it is difficult for me to fully explain to clients what the process will feel like for them.
However, Haleh Modasser has been through the process recently. So, her story is far more powerful than anything that I can tell others about the process.
Monday, April 11, 2011 at 8:00AM I find that many clients are completely unaware that they can actually choose the process for resolving their family law or divorce issues.
As many people are stunned to discovery, in North Carolina you don't have to go to court to resolve the issues of property division, cash flow, support (alimony and child support), and co-parenting (child custody).
While a legal divorce does require court action, the other and usually more pressing issues can be resolved privately, through a number of other processes.
I have created a presentation that explains the basics of each process and briefly analyzes the pros and cons of each. This was initially presented to a large Triangle company through its employee services program. But, I think many more people can benefit from this information.
This informaiton may help you discuss your options with each other, and with any professionals that you consult.
Feel free to contact me if you have questions about this information.
Friday, January 30, 2009 at 4:42PM All to often, the parties involved in a divorce emerge from the legal process financially and emotionally devastated. Families and lives are destroyed in the process of ending a marriage. I have had cases where I honestly feared that the grief and stress from the process was going to kill my client.
Some of the negative effects of a divorce cannot be avoided. Grieving for a lost relationship is natural, and will be a part of any divorce. Some degree of financial loss is unavoidable because it costs more to run two households than it does to run one. Divorce is difficult for children of any age because of the unavoidable changes in their lives.
But, contrary to popular belief, divorce does not have to be nasty, ugly and combative. The parties do not have to "jump into the mud" or "take the low road" in order to effectively advocate for their interests and resolve the issues that arise in a divorce.
Over the last few decades, lawyers that had grown weary of seeing clients devastated by the legal process of ending marriages developed a new process for resolving the legal issues that arise in a divorce. That process was based on spouses working together, or collaboratively, to resolve the issues of property distribution, financial support, and the parenting and financial support of children. That process became known as Collaborative Law.
Through the next series of posts, I will describe the structure and process of Collaborative Law. I will also explain the tremendous benefits of the Collaborative Process. Hopefully, by the end of the series, I will have shed some light on this process so that more divorcing couples will explore this option before waging war on each other.
In my next post, I will provide an overview of the actual structure and mechanics of the collaborative process.